Ohh okay got your point now!
well there are different families with different situations, so neither you can judge my choices nor do I can yours, because I've gone through this joint family system I know everything very well...
being as a mother it's really hard to see your kids are living far away separately, but what if your kids are near to you and are together but has no respect and sympathy towards you and between themselves either, it hurts more than that, leave that topic just tell me what if your kids are not raising in a normative manners amongst your joint family? what if the welfare of your children are being abandoned in a joint family system? will you still ignore all these? Iam not against the joint family as a whole, some people can manage though and some can not.
By my opinion 80% joint families are just tolerating eachother, hence that is not a joint family but a broken family I must say....
A mother can live with any of his son which she wishes, she can either spend quality of time with each of her son after they are married, there is no issue with our parents because parents are included in both joint and individual family so I've never omitted a mother in-law or father in-law from the family but Iam talking about her sons and their wives.
so living with your brother or brother in-law is not an obligation...
if the family is happy and thinks they can be much good together rather than seperation then it's really good but as I said before it's just an assumption.