Asalamo aliekum
aaj jo main aap longo k samnay problem lay kar aai hoon bohat bohat ziada aam hogai hai lakin larkon ki nisbat larkion main ziada hai..aur wo hai confidence ka na hona,,,hesitation,,,ghabrahat..
aap log yehan us k reason batyen aur us k liya kia karna chaheya aur wo konsi wujoohat hain jin ki waja se ye cheezain creat hoti hain..
larkian aqalman honay k bawoojud aksar samnay walay k samnay ghabra jaati hain answer nahi kar paati,,,
ye meri observation hai is post k through main longo main awarness creat karna chahti hoon{}{98u
Haan haan theek hai samajh aa gia kon larki aqalmand honay kay bawajood ghabra jati hai aur answer naheen kar pati.
Confidence ki kami ki wajoohat:
Wo paida hi huwi hoti hai kami kay saath
Parent ka sulook aisa karta hai
Ya bhai bahnon ka sulook
ya aqal ki kami
Ya koi himmat dilanay wala naheen.
maloomaat ki kami
Na pukhtagi
Khud ko kumtar samjhna ya kuch na samajhna
Knowledge ki kami
Apni importance ki kami
Shyness main thing.
bayaitabari khud pay
Apni baat ya jawab pay pay yaqeen.
Mukammal maloomat na hona
ghabrahat
dar
khauf
nuqsaan ka khdsha
bayizzati ka khatra
Maar ka khauf
darpok hona
apni salahyaton pay yaqeen na hona
Under pressure hona
Kisi kay roaab main ana
kharab situation hona
bay izzati ka khuaf
Shirmindagi ka khauf
Apni baat ya jawab main shuk
Waghaira waghaira
How to control:
Yay soch lain ghalat bolain gay ya sahi koi aap ko qatl naheen karay gay. (dakoon kay samanay aisi jurrat karnay ki zaroorat naheen)
Yay sochana agar ghalat bhi huwa to kia huawa koi maray ga to naheen parents say ziada say ziada dan't par sakti hai to kia huwa agar sahi huwa to.
Kisi say bhi darna naheen chahyay
Kisi kay raub main bhi na ain.
Ghalat honay ka khauf na kar kay jawab detay rahain to confidence bhi aa jaay gi.
Jawab ghalat bhi huwa to kia huwa. Shirmindagi kioon her koi pehlay ghalat hi karta hai tub hi seekhta hai.
Khud ko aham samjhain
Apni baton ko aham samjhain
dar aur khauf aur shirmindagi ko dimagh say nikal phainkay.
shyness chor dain itna bhi naheen kay bayhaya hi ho jain aur kahain PRECIOUS nain kaha tha.
Itna kay such aur sahi baat kisi say bhi kah sakain. Waisay yay sub say muskil kaam hai jaisa kay main bohat hi shy thi kay salam tuk itna ahista karti thi kay loag sun naheen patay thay aur ammi ki dant parti thi aur dobara salam karna parta tha zor say. Zalim samaj.
Sub say bahtar hai kisi bhi conversation main hissa lain.
apany bhai bahnon ko bitha kar lecture dain, class lain ya kuch parhain ya sikhain.
Jo bhi bolain is yaqeen kay saath kay sub sahi hai jub practice ho jaay to phir soch kar aur samajh kar bolain kay sahi hai kay naheen.
bhai bahnon ya ammi kay saath kisi bhi mazoo jin pay jo wqo ghalat hon bahas karain aur unko dalail aur sabooton say samjhain.
Mujh main confidence jub aya jub main nain quran parha aur bohat si batain samjhi.
Apni knowledge barhain her mamalay main.
Ghar main aisay kaam karain jis pay aap ko saraha jaay aur tareef ho.
Aur bohat kuch baqia ainda.
